I really struggles with what, when and how to tell the boys. I did not want to scare them or disrupt their childhood, but I also didn't want to keep them in the dark because I knew they were going to start seeing things look different. I prayed asking for the right time and words to talk with them. I also sought out guidance from a wonderful counselor on how to handle the situation.
I didn't know when it was going to happen, but a moment arose after John and I helped Aden work through a meltdown last Saturday. We called Kalen, my youngest, into the room so that we could tell them both. We told them that Mommy found out that she is sick and that she will be going to the doctor a lot. We also said that they will probably see more people around us visiting and caring for us. We said that Mommy will be okay and that we do not have a lot of information right now, but will let them know more when we find out more.
They didn't really have a reaction or questions. I think it is because Mommy doesn't look sick. A few days later, Aden came up to me and gave me a hug saying that he doesn't want me to go to the doctor. I told him that Mommy needs to go to the doctor so that they can make me better. Again he said he didn't want me to go to the doctor. I asked him why and he said that I would not be able to play with him very much. I gave him a big hug and said let's do a lot of playing now and see what happens later.
I love my boys!!
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